It would be too easy to associate only with people who desire comfortable lives, who wish just to be “towed along”, to be helped or assisted, or just to receive. With them you can play the part of big brother, making them dependent on you.
Your role ought to be that of forming responsible people who want to stand on their own two feet, like real men and women.
It is hard, but you must be decisive and help others to rouse themselves from inactivity, to think for themselves, to organise their own lives, to stand up for themselves, and if necessary to disagree with you.
In that way you will be truly happy to see them growing alongside you.
Card. François-Xavier Van Thuan
Spera in Dio!
Città Nuova, Roma 2008, p. 42